Dear Church brothers, you see those beautiful and classy ladies whom you are scared of approaching are usually the loneliest and simplest of all the ladies you might know.

Don't let their looks intimidate you. Underneath the pretty makeup, the gorgeous dress, the sweet pair of shoes, and the straight face is a woman who is single, open, and in need of some attention from a Godly man who knows how to treat a good woman right.

She is straightforward because it is how God made her. It is not a woman's natural inclination to come out and say, "Hey bros, I'm single and available to be wooed." Nah, if you are waiting for her to openly discuss her status, then you might as well wait until she gives you an invitation to her wedding.

One thing that undermines us men is the general assumption that a lady must have a man because of the way she dresses and carries herself. Bro, snap out of it; that classy, independent woman is so single to the core.

She is single with her Mary Kay and Zaron; and single with her Darling Yankee and Brazilian wig. She and that Camry she drives are both single. Most of the time, she dresses to get your attention, while you are over there assuming she's taken because she looks too good to be single.

The truth is, she doesn't have a man because you and 99 other men are assuming she's dating someone when she's not. Seriously, I know a brother who has had a crush on a lady at church for as long as I can remember, but he couldn't make a move on her. Guess why?
Because she's a regular tither and giver.

Yeah, men can be like that; we are that bad with assumptions. Every time she gets up during service to go make a financial pledge at the altar, he thinks, "Oh, she pays her tithe every month; there is no way she is still single." And that fear has slowly turned his crush into brotherly love because he cannot man up and make a move.

Many of you have similar assumptions; You believe that because she drives her car, pays her bills, wears expensive hair, and carries an expensive phone, she's either out of your league or already taken. Bro Nehemiah, you'll never know until you make a move.

Go over to her car and ask her to a movie date sometime. She's very approachable; that straight face is only a front. Church ladies love their men bold and courageous. Men who can not only speak in tongues but can also take the bold step and break through her defenses to get to her heart.

So uncle, when you see her next time, go over and say hello, then ask for her name. Don't be too quick to ask her for her number; the world is not ending today; you still have next Sunday to continue the wooing. Where are you rushing to?

Don't be too quick to ask for a movie date either. No matter how single a good woman is, she'll never go on any sort of date with a brother she doesn't know too well.
So start by asking her name this Sunday.

Next Sunday, ask for her number. Call her in between the week. Upper Sunday, ask if she'll be free next weekend. Then ask for that movie date. Before you know it, things will fall in place.
Make that move today sir. Make sure you compose yourself very well before asking her out.